"The best of the author's 'dance' trilogy.... A remarkable, beautifully written book, illuminating ways for women to find integrity, courage, and voice in a world that rewards female silence and pretense." --- Carol Tavris, author of The Mismeasure of Woman.

From sexual faking to family secrets, Dr. Harriet Lerner reveals how the struggle toward truth-telling is at the center of our deepest longings for intimacy, authenticity, and self-regard. Drawing on more than two decades of clinical experience. Dr. Lerner articulates her rich philosophy and thoughtful guidelines about speaking out and holding back. With the passion, humor, and clarity that have become her trademark, Lerner unravels the lies, secrets, and silence - our own and others' - that affect our lives and teaches us how to widen the path to truth-telling for everyone.