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Most of the time, you hope internet dating eventually leads to a real-world
relationship. You post your internet dating profile, check out other
peoples' profiles, email back and forth, maybe have a few messenger
conversations. Eventually you agree to talk over the telephone. You
get to know each other a little better. At some point, you have to make
the transition from internet dating into the real world. It's time for the
first face-to-face meeting.
The truth of the matter is that, no matter how careful you are and how much
you prepare, you really do not know this person yet. And there really are
some bad people out there. There aren't many of them; most of the people
you meet in an internet dating site are nice, honest, good people. But you
have to protect yourself just in case. Here are ten ways to protect
yourself when your internet dating relationship becomes a face-to-face meeting.
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Learn as much as you can about the person before you agree to meet him or
her. Always make sure you know the person's whole name,
address and phone number. Check the information out to make sure it's
real. Have many internet dating conversations and ask many questions
before agreeing to a face-to-face meeting. Consider getting a background
check done on the person. You could even ask for references, and call up
his or her friends and coworkers.
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Know how to protect yourself. This is common sense
for anybody at anytime. You might want to take a self-defense course, not
just for this face-to-face encounter, but also to keep yourself safe in any
situation.
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Let someone know. Tell a family member or friend
where you are going, who you are meeting and when you will be home. Tell
them that you are meeting someone you met on an internet dating site for the
first time. Arrange to call them when you do get home-and make sure your
date knows it.
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Be aware of your surroundings. Always stay alert and
look around. Don't allow yourself to get in a fog or to get so distracted
you find yourself in an unfamiliar place or an unsafe situation.
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Pay attention to your intuition-both before and after your
internet dating relationship goes face-to-face. If you see red flags or
feel uneasy, delay the face-to-face meeting until you feel more comfortable
with this person. If your intuition flares when you meet face-to-face, pay
attention to it.
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Arrange to meet in a public place. Choose a well-lit
public place where there are lots of people around. Not a dark movie
theater. Not a park where there are paths through wooded areas. A
busy restaurant or coffee shop is an ideal place.
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Arrange to meet in the daytime. There are more people
around during the day, the lighting is better, and it is safer.
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Arrange for both of you to bring along a friend or two. There's
safety in numbers, and there's less pressure to do things you aren't
comfortable with in group dates. Plus it gives you the opportunity to meet
each others' friends.
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Meet in a neutral location and get yourself there.
Don't allow someone you only know from an internet dating site to pick
you up at your home, and don't allow him or her into your car.
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Always carry a cell phone. If you don't have one, you can
purchase a GoPhone or Tracfone and some minutes for around $20, which is a
small price to pay for safety. Any charged cell phone will call 911, even
if it isn't activated by a cell phone carrier. Keep your cell phone in
your pocket, where you can get it quickly and easily. It won't help if
it's buried in the bottom of your purse.
These ten tips will keep you safe in a face-to-face meeting, and it will
relieve your anxiety if you know you are well-prepared in case things go
wrong. And you'll be able to relax and enjoy the time with your internet
dating friend when things go very right.
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